…to one of my FAVORITE former Blackhawks boys. Happy Birthday, Adam Burish 🙂
Archive for the ‘General Ramblings’ Category
Tags: Adam Burish, Badgers, Blackhawks, Stars, Wisconsin
I realize that I haven’t had very much to talk about lately. Well, I have, but not a lot of time or desire to write. I’ve been SO BUSY it’s ridiculous. Oh my goodness. So today, I’m just going to leave this page open, and blab about what’s on my mind. Ready? Launch.
Topic 1: Dan Carcillo. Okay look, it’s no secret that I ADORE Dan Carcillo. Why? I really don’t know. But he’s awesome. And I don’t mean “just on the ice,” because quite frankly, he’s not always awesome on the ice. I’m talking like, in person, he’s a really nice guy. I like his spirit, even if it does get a little out of control sometimes. I love his passion and excitement. I don’t know, I just love the guy. But that “hit” the other night (or, as some may call it, shove, push, slam, dumbass move…etc.) was just dirty, Daniel. I saw it happen, thought to myself “Oh god, really, another suspension? What is wrong with you?!” It was a really stupid move on his part, that is true. And he’s going to get his hearing today, and he will deserve whatever punishment he receives. That much is true. But I’m sorry, just because he made one bad decision (okay, more than one…but it happens!) doesn’t mean the city of Chicago should shun him, call him a f*cking idiot or wish that he would die. Seriously, I’ve heard all of these things in the same sentence from a so-called Chicago fan. You can be mad at the guy, yes, I am too. But the fact is, he’s a part of our team, and when he’s NOT being a bonehead, he’s fairly productive, playing his role, and making other people happy. People make mistakes. And yes, some mistakes are worse than others. But the fact is, things like this happen. It’s unfortunate, but they do. He should be punished for his actions, yes, but goddamit stop wishing death on him! That’s just plain uncalled for! Think about the last time you made a big mistake at your job. A mistake where you deserved major punishment. A mistake you didn’t sit there and think, “Gee, I’m going to royally fuck up today because that’s who I am!” Chances are, every mistake you’ve made has been accidental. You didn’t sit there and think through the whole thing…because if you did, the mistake wouldn’t have been made. Now think again about that HUGE MISTAKE you made. Maybe it lost an account for your company. Maybe it caused someone else to get fired. Whatever the end result, you probably felt pretty guilty, right? And you accepted any punishment given to you, am I correct? Your coworkers were probably pissed at you, your boss was probably pissed at you, and your Regional Manager probably gave you a stern talking to, possibly even suspended you from your duties or forced you to “take time off.” Think about how you felt. All you did was wish you could go back in time and change what you did, because you realize it was the wrong move, am I right? Now think again about when you came back, whether it was the next day or the next month. You still probably had that sense of guilt, but you probably also worked extra hard to prove to everyone that was still mad at you that you weren’t out to make things bad for everyone…that it was just a mistake. And let’s be honest here, that one HUGE mistake…it probably wasn’t your first slip up, and it probably won’t be your last. Maybe it will be your last BIG slip up, but you will continue to make mistakes, because you are human. You will continue to slip up on things here and there, whether at work or at home, and you will continue to accept the consequences for your actions like an adult, and use each mistake as a learning experience. There, now please apply this entire concept to Danny Boy. Big mistake and/or dumb decision…yeah, but it’s not the first and surely not the last. And he’s not the only person who’s done it before. So stop acting like he’s some sort of “danger to humanity” and allow him to serve his suspension AND injury time off and learn from his incredibly dumb mistake, okay? For the love of Pete, he’s HUMAN! These things happen. Everyone fucks up at their job here and there, and some times are worse than others. But we all get back up, try our hardest not to make those mistakes again, and no matter how hard we try…mistakes still come. So get off his back, let him serve his time and go back to supporting the rest of the team instead of wasting all of your energy cutting him down. For fucks sake, go be a fan and cheer on the team that’s playing tomorrow in Philly.
Topic 2: My vacation. Ok deep breath. Now I’m done ranting about moronic “fans.” Sigh. Here we go. So…a month from Friday, I leave on vacation. If you don’t know, Brian & I are doing a big Blackhawks roadtrip. We’re hitting up their games in Denver, San Jose and Phoenix…plus a day in Vegas, just for a break. Oddly enough, the night that we’re flying into Phoenix is the night my cousin is getting married, so various parts of my family will be down there. We aren’t going to the wedding itself, but we’ll probably get together with my dad and a few random pieces of the Goodrich crew. But seriously, I am so excited for this. I haven’t taken a real “vacation” in a while. A weekend here, a mini roadtrip there, but nothing like this in a few years. And I’ve NEVER hit up this many cities in one trip in my life. We have everything booked except for a couple of flights, and with prices going up and down and up and down day by day, I’m just waiting a little while longer to see if we can snag a deal. I’m hoping that’s the case. If not, well, at least the flights (even at their most expensive) are pretty doable and Southwest doesn’t charge for checked bags. So yay. Vacation, almost ready. And at all three games, we never sit higher than 9 rows off the ice. Sweet deal.
Topic 3: Why I am a Beachbody Coach. This is something that’s been bothering me for a while. While Beachbody Coaching is a “job,” yes, and it does earn me a side income (which is why I encourage everyone to consider it if fitness is something they are passionate about…) the money is NOT why I do this. The reason I am a Beachbody Coach is because I truly believe in the products, the company, and…most importantly…the results. I am a 100% Beachbody Success Story, and I love this company. I joined because I wanted to help other people achieve the same results (or better ones) than I have personally achieved! Everyone needs some sort of motivation, and that is why I do what I do! I don’t do it “for the paycheck” or “to get a discount.” While these are all really great perks, I do this because I want to help people. I want to “End the Trend” of obesity. I want to help everyone I know reach their full potential. I want to show people that you don’t have to spend a fortune to get your body to where you want it to be. I want to prove that a DVD program WORKS just as well (if not better) than their expensive gym membership. I want to show everyone that fitness and nutrition can be fun. I want to prove that not everything you see in an infomercial is a gimmick (although most infomercials are…) and I want to show people that there is no “miracle pill” or “magical machine” that is going to get them into the best shape of their life. You have to put in the effort both in the kitchen and in the workout, but if you have the right tools, the right support and the right company backing you 100%, YOU CAN DO IT. So that is why I am a Beachbody Coach. I do it because I want to see you succeed. Would I love to reach the level where I can quit my full time job and have Coaching as my primary income, well yeah! Who wouldn’t?! But if I were to stay exactly where I am right now, financially with Coaching, if I were helping enough people see their true potential, the thank yous that they give me is worth more than any paycheck. And I will be happy.
Topic 4: Camera. So in regards to my vacation, I need a new camera. Mine is starting to do funny things. Like…lock up for no reason. It’s still functional, but I’ve wanted to upgrade for a while now, and I figure now it’s necessary. So hopefully this week I’ll be able to buy one. I sure hope so, I really do. I want the Canon Rebel t3i, and Best Buy has a pretty decent sale on one with a super zoom lens package thingy. (Like my pro lingo there?) So hopefully I can get my hands on that baby…soon! So yeah, buy some artwork so I can afford a better one, would ya? 😉
Topic 5: John Madden. NO DALE TALLON, YOU CAN’T BE AS COOL AS WE WERE IN 2010. I don’t care that these are primarily “your guys,” stop signing all of the players we had to get rid of because of your mistakes in Chicago (which, by the way, you are already bound to repeat in Florida…) John Madden, love him to death, is now a Panther, along with Versteeg, Kopecky, and Campbell. Well, and Skille, but we’re not really counting him in this blurb. Dale Tallon is like that annoying kid who keeps trying to sit with you at the lunch table in elementary school. He’s really annoying and dorky, and kind of a buzzkill (because, you know, you use that word all the time in elementary school…) but he just keeps trying to be as cool as you. Each day he does something new to try and impress you or to try to be you. He shows up with new clothes, he brings your favorite treats to try to convince you he’s cool. He wears the same shirt you wore last week. He brings in cookies. But still, no matter how awesome he tries to be, he’s still annoying as hell and you do not want to let him sit next to you at lunch. And by the way, he kinda smells. So yeah, take that Tallon! You smell! Stop trying to be Chicago in 2010. You just can’t ever recreate that magic. It was magic. It was chemistry. You just can’t buy it back. It has to show up.
And that’s about all that’s on my mind right now. So….yeah, go Hawks. Beat the Flyers. The last time we were there…this happened:
So let’s talk for a few minutes here. This one is a ramble entry. Each year, I tend to go back and reflect on things I’ve learned, things I want to accomplish and whatnot for the new year. So let’s reflect. 2011 was a year of ups and downs. A LOT of ups, but still it had its share of downs. Just like any year, you have to learn to balance the good with the bad and keep your perspective positive. Every day is a new learning experience. You will learn from your mistakes, from your fights, from your happiness and from your sadness. You will learn something every day of your life, and if you keep your mind, ears and eyes open, you will draw something positive from each one. In 2011, I learned a lot.
I learned that no matter how much you close off your heart, love can still get in. Love from friends, family…or love of another human who you’re destined to spend your life with. It may show up when you’re least expecting it, and it may show up at an awkward time…causing you to shift priorities and disconnect some friendships, but if the love is worth it, the choice is easy. Love is the most amazing feeling you will ever experience, if you’re lucky enough to allow it to find you.
I’ve learned that trust is earned, not given. Putting your trust in someone is a great way of being positive and looking for the best in everyone, but some people just don’t deserve it. I’ve learned to be more careful with what information I give to which people, and I’ve learned to withhold certain things from people who don’t deserve to know it. No one needs to know everything about me, especially those who aren’t close to me. If I trust you enough to tell you certain things, you know you are loved, you are respected, and you have been accepted as a vital part of my life.
I’ve learned that no friendship is forever in the capacity it is today. They will come and go; disconnect, reconnect and disconnect again. It’s not worth being bitter over or fighting about, because that is how things happen. The person you spend the most time with right now may not be the person you see even once a year in the next two months. But that doesn’t mean that their friendship is not as valuable as it once was. It just means that your bond now is strong enough to stand up to distance or time…or just the opposite. It was never strong enough in the first place, and therefore needed to be severed. Friendships change…they get stronger, they become weaker, but appreciate them for what they are, and the changes will be easier to accept.
Expanding further on that, I’ve learned that you can know someone for your entire life, and you could be best friends since the 3rd grade, but at the end of the day, if they’re not going to show you respect, love and support, they aren’t worth your time. You will have your disagreements, but when disagreements cross the line into blatant disrespect and slander, a friendship should end. Friendship is important to me. Each year, it’s sad that some people have to show me who they truly are and, in turn, be completely dismissed from my life. But the good side of that is that their disappearance makes room for some of the most amazing friendships I’ve ever had to take their place.
I have learned that when I put my mind to it, I can do ANYTHING. All it takes is a little bit of support, a little bit of encouragement and a whole lot of drive. I am smart, I am capable, and I have the ability to truly take over the world if I really put forth the effort.
I have learned that every person has courage inside of them. My courage to face each day is something that my great friends have given back to me in the past few years. I have tried new things, talked to new people, had new experiences that a few years ago…I would have never dreamed possible. I have not only let in new things, but I have pushed away old, toxic things on all levels of life. And though I fail at some things, I succeed at so many more. You have to take chances, or else the most glorious moments in life will pass you by and you will have no idea.
I’ve learned that reconnecting with people you haven’t seen in years can either be a blessing or a curse. Sometimes it’s the greatest feeling on earth because you have reconnected a long-lost friendship, but sometimes it makes you realize why that person was pushed out of your life in the first place.
I’ve learned that being happy is more than just money or possessions. Sure, it helps, and having enough money to survive is important, but there are more important things to life than going to every Hawks home game, buying the coolest clothes or having a Range Rover. If you surround yourself with enough love, the happiness will come.
I have discovered that my resolution for 2012 is not only to lose that last stubborn 20-25 lbs that I’ve been trying to shed for years, but also to be more positive, driven, and motivated to reach every goal that I can possibly set forth. I have discovered that all it will take for me to truly succeed is will power, support, and my own positive thinking…realizing that I CAN do it, and I should let NO ONE stop me. If one person says no, I have to move on to the next. I can’t let one person’s negativity or bad words crush my spirit or determination. After all, there are two ways to have the tallest building in the land…you can build a new, sturdy, beautiful building…or you can use tools to viciously tear down all the ones around you with more height. Which path would you rather choose?
I have discovered that no matter how I feel about myself, I am beautiful, inside and out. It doesn’t matter what people think or say if they are not a piece of my daily life. The people around me think highly of me, and I think highly of myself. I love me, I love who I have turned out to be, and I love who I am becoming every day. I love the path that my life has led me to follow, and I love the people who it has brought into my life. I love the people who have been eliminated, whether they believe it or not. Okay, maybe love is the wrong word, but I respect them. Even if you have hurt me in the past, I forgive you and respect you. Always forgive, but I never forget. I am a good person who deserves nothing short of the best. I’ve learned that I should only surround myself with positive influences and good times. I’ve learned that I have to take the bad times and look for that silver lining. It’s always there somewhere. I’ve learned that I have to LEARN. Each mistake I make and every heartbreak that comes my way is a learning experience. Every heart I break or every friendship I may ruin, though a big mistake, will teach me a lesson. I’ve learned that I cannot live with regret. Regret only eats away at you, day by day. It’s senseless to dwell on the past. I’ve learned to look for love in the least obvious of places when you’re down. Look for love in all of life’s disappointments. Never go a day without love. Love for yourself, love for others, love for your life, love for everything around you.
Love with all of your heart. Take chances. Make mistakes. Make friends. Say what you feel. Don’t hold back. Appreciate yourself. Appreciate your true friends. Don’t underestimate the power of the love of your friends and family. Don’t underestimate the power of a good song lyric. (You may end up getting it tattooed on your body.) Give your all to everything you do. Live like there is no tomorrow. Love your life, and always remember to stay positive!
Tags: Artwork, Blackhawks, Corey Crawford, Marcus Kruger
First, HAPPY BIRTHDAY COREY CRAWFORD!!!!!
Second…this is what I did tonight. Happy New Year, Friends.
Tags: Beachbody, Beachbody Coaching, Chalene Johnson, Insanity, P90X, Tony Horton, Turbo Jam, TurboFire
I will start with this: Beachbody is an amazing company. They are the first company I have truly believed in, and there has not been one product, series or idea that they have put out there that I didn’t understand, embrace and recommend to everyone in my life. I love this company, I do. 100% of my personal success is a direct result of Beachbody. It wasn’t until I started using their products and embracing the community that I had any kind of success. If you are looking for a company that cares about its customers and really stands behind their message, Beachbody is that company. I have nothing but amazing things to say about them. With that being said, I have to share with you my personal struggles. For a couple of years, I have been a Beachbody Coach. Yet, in those few years, I have had little to no success. My rank has not changed, my income has hardly increased, and while the discount on their amazing products is quite the perk, the membership & website fees (though insanely low when compared with other companies) is starting to really bust my budget now that I have purchased a desperately-needed new car. I am still a 1.5 income household. I am still struggling paycheck to paycheck. And while the opportunity to succeed with Beachbody and really earn more and do more with them (the idea that I can succeed with them so well that I could quit my full time job) is appealing, and I know plenty of people who have done just that, I am struggling, and I am considering finally hanging it up as a coach. I don’t want to, but unless I can have that “a-ha” experience, it’s going to be necessary. Here’s a breakdown of the reasons I think I am struggling. I’m not using these as excuses. In fact, I encourage other coaches, business owners, etc. to read these and give me feedback as to how to reverse these situations and make this opportunity work for me. So here we go, a breakdown of the struggles I have with Beachbody Coaching. Keep in mind, these are not struggles that everyone will face, and I do not discourage you from signing up as a coach yourself. In fact, I encourage it wholeheartedly.
- Lack of Direction: Here’s the story of how my coaching career began. I signed up, eager to get down to business and drive my success like no other! I read my manuals, filled out my personal goal worksheets, set up my home office, sent out emails announcing my new plans, contacted the people in my upline…and I waited to hear a response…from anyone. The response from family: “Oh, well that’s nice. Are you sure paying for this monthly is a good idea since you’re currently unemployed?” The response from friends: “Oh cool, so does this mean you can get me a discount on things?” The response from my upline: None. I tried again, no response. Not one person in my upline has ever returned a single contact attempt. Maybe I was just unlucky in where I was placed. Maybe the person who’s string I was placed in was one of those “I’m in it for the discount” coaches and I just lost out on placement, I don’t know. But whatever the reason, I’ve never had any contact from my upline, and therefore I have never truly been given a “here’s how to get started” lesson outside of videos and brochures available on the Coach Homepage. So Coaches, here’s my question for you: if you’ve experienced this, how did you get past it? How did you reach out to someone else? Who was it? I’ve heard to reach out to “Coach Relations” a few times, but here’s the problem: I don’t know who that is. So help me out. That’s right, I’m asking other coaches for help. Which brings me to point #2…
- Coach “Rivalry:” I don’t know if anyone else has seen this at all, but I sure have. To me, coaching is a business based on individual effort as well as a team effort, this is true. However, it’s still a community and I feel like if I reach out to another coach, they should be willing to help, not shun me away. Maybe this was just my own personal experience, but in the past, I contacted a few other coaches and asked for help in starting over. I explained my feeling of being lost and my true desire to succeed, and I was given the brush off. The people that were supposed to help me turned me away because I was not a “part of their team.” It was as if they were worried I was going to steal their secrets or something, when all I really wanted to do was get a little push in the right direction; get advice, maybe have a face to face meeting or an email conversation. I hear of people I know (granted, not that I know well but people I have met face to face before) having this great success, and I turn to them for help and they treat me like some sort of corporate spy, stealing their business secrets. Just because I’m not in your downline doesn’t mean you can’t give me a little bit of advice. I’m not asking for how to “beat you,” I’m asking how to get started to create my own path and my own success. When my own “team” doesn’t respond to my inquiries, I have to look elsewhere, and I’d rather turn to someone that I have at least met before…rather than an anonymous source at corporate headquarters.
- Lack of Time: Now I know this one seems like the ultimate excuse. But I assure you, it’s not. I want to know how you successful coaches have managed to fit this into your schedules. Those of you who do this full time, I admire you and I aspire to have that same success. But I know you all had to start somewhere, and you were probably in my shoes once: working a full time job to pay the bills, taking on various side projects to earn income, balancing work, social life and family…how did you fit in your coaching? What are the “little things” I can do that will make the biggest impact? I get frustrated because I see all of these webinars and videos and live chats that I know I should attend, but they are all happening while I’m at work or while I’m in the middle of another project. I assume this is where a lot of information is revealed and explained (see point number 4, coming up), but working an 8-5 job means I can’t attend. And I know that most of these webinars or calls are recorded and available to review later on, but when I get home from my 8-5, most of the time I am working on art projects, spending time with family or doing something else that I find equally important, and by the time I have a few minutes to at least get started listening to a recording or watching a video, it’s 6 hours until I have to wake up to start the next day. A busy schedule should be no excuse. So coaches, help me out. How do you budget your time? How do you decide which calls/webinars/etc. are more important? Do you catch them all if possible? Do you “not miss certain ones?” And furthermore, how do you hear about them more than a few hours before? Because it also seems like I don’t hear about any of these things until a few minutes before they happen…or after they’re already over.
- Lack of Knowledge of Events/Products: As I briefly touched on in #3, I feel like a lot of the important information is revealed in calls/webinars/etc. And as explained, I have yet to find a way to make these things fit into my schedule, and I’m overwhelmed with how many there are, and I’m almost intimidated by the thought of starting at the beginning and reviewing all of the ones available. But it seems to me that a lot of these really cool events and products are things that I could easily use as tools to promote and build my business (as you other Coaches have…) but I feel like I never hear about them until it’s too late. For example, this whole “Challenge” thing…I’m still not really sure what it is, how to use it, etc. I’ve read the information in the pdfs and I’ve tried to figure it out, but I still don’t know how to use this to my advantage. But because I don’t have a team who has ever responded to inquiries and I can’t make it to live events, etc., I’m in the dark. In fact, I didn’t even know that the “Challenge” was going on until it was weeks into it. I visited my coach office in the morning (as I do every day) and I see things about “How So and So is Blowing it Up with the Beachbody Challenge” and whatnot, and I had no idea what they were talking about. It’s overwhelmingly frustrating to me. I want to know about these things. I want to use them and take advantage of the tools available. But when my main source of news and information is the Coach Homepage itself, it’s hard. Many of the things I want to know about don’t show up in the news feed, and if they do…it’s almost too late for me to use it. So I want to know if there are any of you out there who are in my boat: no ability to attend webinars, etc. on a regular basis and using the coach homepage as your primary source of information. If you are, how are you hearing news as it happens?
- Overwhelmed by Information and Events: While this is a good thing, it is also quite the point of frustration. There is SO MUCH GOING ON with Beachbody all the time. From new products to live events, chats, webinars, calls, promotions, opportunities, and so on and so on…there are tons of things going on at the same time. If I had all day to sort through them all, I could probably keep up fairly easily. However, I don’t have a full day to do that. So by the time I get a few minutes (or if I’m lucky, a few hours) to sit down and read up on things, four new things have popped up and I’m back being way behind again. How do you guys stay on top of what’s happening? I assume that this, along with most of my other issues, are all the result of the support of your coaching team. Correct me if I’m wrong.
- Inability to Attend Events: Speaking of things going on and how there is A TON, one of the really cool things that Beachbody and its Coaches seem to do is host live events. Whether that’s a community thing, a house party, the Summit, whatever it may be…a gathering of like-minded individuals, whether for the purposes of connecting with other coaches or recruiting new team members or just reaching out to your community to spread health and wellness through a weekly fit club workout…it’s a really admirable idea. However, I have yet to have the ability to attend even one of these events. Many of the ones I would like to attend because I feel they would be beneficial to overcoming my struggles are not local, therefore they are out of the question because I cannot afford to take days off work and travel to a seminar or gathering. I have yet to hear of any kind of helpful event in my area (Chicago suburbs, for those wondering) that I have been able to fit into my schedule or travel to, but I would love to attend one if given the chance. I would love to sit in on a “new coach training.” It would thrill me to work out with others via a fit club. I would love to attend any sort of gathering where I can connect with people who understand my passion for this company, whether they are coaches or just people that love fitness. I want to attend events. I want to bring friends to events and expose them to these things that I love. I would love to host one of my own, but as the next point will explain…I have yet to be able to do it. So Coaches, a question for you: what events, when scheduled in your area, do you consider a “DO NOT MISS” event? Which types of events have you learned the most, made the most connections, had an a-ha moment, etc.? Are there certain events that take priority over others? Do you attend every single one you can? Give me a little insight as to how you operate.
- Lack of Community Interest: I touched on this in the last paragraph, but this is one that really is starting to get to me. I mentioned that I would love to have the ability to host events and gather up people who have this desire to pursue fitness, whether as a coach, customer or just a supporter…whatever role they would be willing to pursue. My struggle comes when I realize that though I have a lot of “fit-minded” friends, not one of them has ever taken my passion seriously. They’ve seen my story, whether through my retelling of it, or by seeing me go from point a to point b, and they know that this is for real. However, when it comes to trying to show them the benefits of anything I do or use, I always get the same response. “No thanks.” I’ve tried organizing events, getting friends together to attend events, etc., and each time, it falls through due to lack of interest or response. They say it starts with who you have closest to you (friends and family) and while that’s true, they can only say “no” to you so many times before they’re going to get frustrated. I know. For instance, my mom has seen me through my entire journey. She believes in the products and the company as I do, but when I ask her, “Mom, you’ve been borrowing my Turbo Jam DVDs at least once a month for the past year, why don’t you make the investment and get a copy for yourself?” or “I know you love the way Shakeology makes you feel, and you said you really thought it tasted great, why not sign up for HD and guarantee your supply each month?” or even “Mom, your progress is so encouraging. You need to share your story with others like I do, you’re already doing this all the time, why don’t you just try out being a coach?” Her response is always the same. “Why would I want to buy the series if I can borrow it from you all the time? Why would I order Shakeology for myself, let alone on home direct, when it’s so expensive, and I don’t have it every day? I can’t justify paying a fee each month to join the Beachbody club, let alone a different fee to become a coach, especially when I see the struggles you’re having.” Talk about discouraging. It’s true, when there’s a coach around, everyone wants everything for free. They know you have it, and when you lend out a series for them to “try it,” they seem to never make the leap to purchase it for themselves. They want to “borrow it” once a month when they feel the need. They want your extra Shakeology samples. They want you to buy things for them to get a discount. (Because once you share with them the perks of coaching when they show interest, once they find out that there’s a discount, they just say “Oh, well instead of becoming a coach, why don’t I just give you the money and you order it with your discount?”) It’s insanely frustrating to find so few people who have a true interest in this concept. And that’s really shocking to me, honestly. I attended NPTI and made connections with some great fitness minds, and you would think that this would be the jackpot for where to make connections and build your team, but it wasn’t. In fact, when I shared my story, the general response was, “Oh, that’s great. Good thing you’re getting real training now and you can leave the DVDs behind.” Ouch. So yes, lack of community interest has been a BIG struggle for me. How do you other coaches respond to negativity or resistance like this?
- Frustration Over Others’ Success: Now this one, I know is going to seem like personal jealousy, and you know what…it sort of is. I’ll be honest. I have seen people that I know start this business years after I have, and they are KILLING IT. They are earning more, doing more, and they are loving what they do in a way that I have never experienced…and it’s frustrating. I don’t know if it’s because some of them turned to Beachbody after losing a job and therefore had all day to do it, or if they fit it into a packed schedule like mine…but whatever their means, they have found their way, and it kills me to be so in the dark. I’ve been at this for a few years, and I’m struggling to find my “a-ha” moment. I’m struggling to prioritize what the most important things to focus on in this business seem to be. I’m behind, I’m last to learn everything, and I have no idea where to start…and people I know are crushing their goals, and I have no idea how they’re doing it. Again, chalk it up to having a great “team,” or to having more time on their hands, or whatever, but the fact is…they’re doing it, so I should be able to do it too! I want it. I want to be successful, but I also don’t want to lose sight of all of the other elements of my life. For instance, I don’t want to give up my art as a side income. It’s not only a side income, but it’s a passion. So telling me, “Well, stop drawing for a while and focus on BB Coaching” is not going to fly. While I’m willing to cut back on my workload after the holidays, eliminating that from my life is not going to happen. Especially not when it’s what brought Brian & I together (well, that and the Hawks, which you will also not get me to eliminate…just saying! Everyone has their one social outlet, and I gave up things like the bar scene, concerts and most vacations to make room for the Hawks). I see people with passions for other things; art, music, fashion, business, whatever. They have made this business fit their timeline without sacrificing their other passions, and it kills me! So know this, coaches, if you are successful, I am jealous. I will openly admit it. And you know that when a jealous person is honestly seeking assistance and/or help, they don’t like being talked down to. So when I ask for help, don’t treat me like a child. Don’t treat me like I’m lazy or stupid when I ask honest questions. Don’t laugh at me when I ask a question where the answer “seems so obvious.” Don’t talk to me like you’re a superior. Please, talk to me like someone who wants to help me. And if you don’t want to help me, don’t pretend like you do. I am jealous of you, and I want to know how to obtain your success, not steal your customers and business secrets. Honestly. I’ve run into this problem as well. And I’m not saying this is the general manner from coaches, Carl D., or anyone at Beachbody itself, but merely an issue I have run into that frustrates me. When I ask questions, sometimes I am treated like I’m a nuisance; like I’m just some nosy kid looking for “the big secret.” My genuine desire for knowledge and assistance usually ends up answered with, “You have to find your own way and make your own schedule. I don’t know how to help you because you don’t have the drive.” Which is not true. I’m asking because I do have that drive and desire, and I want to know how to translate my desire to success. So please, don’t take my jealousy as competition, take it as admiration.
So basically, these are my biggest struggles. I want help. I want to learn what to prioritize in order to succeed. I want to hear from coaches, business owners, etc., who have had these same struggles. I don’t want to call it quits on Beachbody. I really don’t. I want to make this business all that I have dreamed it can be and all that I see it being for others. I want this, and I want to reach the level of success that I have seen so many achieve. I’m struggling because after years of attempts, I don’t know where to start. I’m ready to start fresh, and if that means starting over from scratch, that’s what I’m going to do. So please, give your thoughts, your advice, your ideas…give me inspiration. I desperately need it!
Tags: Blackhawks, Rant
If your’e easily offended by me ranting about how people can be a little creepy sometimes…stop it right there. (Eh, see what I did there?) I’m about to call out the creepers. So in the last few days, I’ve noticed that the views on this little blog have gone up…a lot. Like, quadruple their normal amounts. It’s probably because of “The Bolland Controversy” and the whole “Patrick Sharp Becoming a Papa” thing, but either way, more views = more people that don’t know me are reading my stuff. And I don’t mind. By all means, read away! But I have to remind everyone out there that I never really meant for this blog to reach the masses. I didn’t start this thing to become “a Hawks blogger” or any other kind of blog writer trying to influence opinions, inform, or even entertain. I set this up for my own amusement and to write things for friends to read…because let’s face it, sometimes Facebook and/or Twitter just doesn’t fit the need to communicate a hilarious story. Now, another reminder is that if you used Google or Bing or Yahoo to find my site, I can see what search terms were used to drive traffic my way. It’s a feature of wordpress. So…just thought I’d make you all aware of that, since lately some really weird terms have been used to find this page. Like, say, “naked hockey players.” While I understand that sort of thing may interest many, I cannot supply you with information or photos. And for that, I apologize. But this whole Google thing, it brings up another point that kind of weirds me out. It’s amazing the sorts of information people search for on the internet. I mean, I’ve known this for a while, and I’ve searched for some pretty random things, this is true. But reading some of the search terms really makes me uncomfortable sometimes. Search terms like “Corey Crawford’s personal life” come up, and while again, I understand the curiosity, it’s just weird to think that there are people out there who care enough about the personal lives of these guys to google it. Me, sure, I know more than a lot of people when it comes to some of their lives, but I didn’t learn my information by googling. I learned it through personal experiences and one hilariously amazing year. These guys have become like a family to me, in a way. Some closer than others, of course (since I hardly have had any conversation time with a lot of the new guys) but I feel overprotective of them like I would members of my family. So when I see people posting negative things, googling things like “Viktor Stalberg License Plate” and someone telling me that “Bolland’s gf is only with him for the money” I DO take it personally. People are allowed to have their opinions, yes, but if someone attacked your family with slander and negativity, you’d feel a little defensive, right? Maybe a little bit weirded out if it was a complete stranger? Yeah, that’s how I feel. Now when it comes to things like googling license plates and trying to find photos of their girlfriends or children, I think that is where things push past awkward and start to voyage into creepy. I mean, what are you going to do with Stalberg’s license plate? Are you going to stalk him? Are you a cop? Did someone that looked like Stalberg hit your car and drive off and you want to verify that it’s him? If it’s the last two, great…google away. But chances are, it’s not…and your searching is merely a stalking attempt, innocent as it may be. I know, some “stalking” is really just meant to be funny and inside jokes. I’ve been there, I understand, but there are people out there who will take personal info like that and go overboard. So if you were directed to this blog by googling things like I mentioned, I’m sorry, but this will not be a place for you to get info. You’re welcome to read on, but just a fair warning. Now, notice how I didn’t even address the third thing in that list of “things that people do.” The Bolland/money thing…yeah, I don’t even think I should justify that with a response. If you think that about that couple…fuck you, you don’t know a thing, so before you jump to ridiculous conclusions, get your goddamn facts straight and maybe learn a little about what love really is. There. It’s been addressed. Let’s move on. The bottom line, people, is that this blog was set up to share personal experiences, opinions, and give my friends a place to read funny things and laugh. If you’re looking for “official” info, I’m probably not your best source. If you’re looking for stalker material, sorry, try the creeper boards/blogs. That’s not my domain. If you’re here to slam the Hawks, you can say what you want, but just remember that these men are like family to me. And if you slam them, lie about them, or jump to some sort of idiotic conclusion about them, I will defend. I will probably call you out, and I will probably offend you. Just as you would defend your family, I will defend mine. So the lesson learned here is to stop being a creeper. If you’re here to read my blog, by all means I encourage it. Stop searching for personal information to make yourself “seem” more important and/or connected. If you want to get to know these guys, it’s not that hard. Just show up. Trust me, it can be done. Searching for photos of their children and wives won’t do it. These guys and their families are real people. Quit being a creeper. Thanks.
So I had this REALLY WEIRD dream last night. Apparently this means I’m not allowed to eat Taco Bell before bed anymore. (I shouldn’t anyway, because it’s awful for you…but I was hungry!) I guess eating Taco Bell followed by Brian’s grandma’s pecan rolo candies will give me super weird dreams. Not…nightmares, but incredibly weird and somewhat lifelike. Like, if you didn’t know it was obviously a dream, you’d think it was really happening to you. But then you wake up, and you know you were dreaming, but you’re sitting there for a good minute or so going, “What the hell was that about?!” So I’m going to share parts of it with you. Let me remind all of you, this was a dream. So people that were sent to this entry because they Google searched Jay Cutler or Dan Carcillo….NONE OF THIS HAPPENED. IT WAS A DREAM. There, disclaimer made. Now…a voyage into my brain. I have no idea what order these things happened in, because as you know, it’s hard to remember everything in a dream, let alone in order.
Piece #1: Daniel Carcillo. So Dan Carcillo showed up in my dream…at my office. I was working at the front desk (which is weird, because in reality I sit in the back…) and he came in the front doors, and asked if Jay had shown up yet. Apparently he was meeting with Jay Cutler…and my boss. Later, as I found out and we will get to in another section, I found out that they were members of a secret fraternity trying to convince my boss to join. Don’t really understand that one, because Carcillo is cool, Cutler is…well, kind of cool, and my boss is a dork. Whatever, it was a dream. Blame the tacos. Not only that, but it turns out that he’s in my office trying to get advice on planning a wedding. I assumed it was his own, but he would not confirm. He just smiled at me and said “don’t worry, you’ll see.” And then he ran away, leaving Cutler in the office with my boss. He later returned with a platter full of baked goods. They were all red. And thus ends Dan Carcillo’s face time in my dream. His name was mentioned a lot in other segments, but he was never seen again.
Piece #2: Niemi gets traded. I think this little segment happened just before I woke up. Because I remember waking up and thinking, “Should I wake up Brian about this? Oh wait, it was a dream.” Not much to this little piece, but it was weird. In my dream, I was blogging…or reading or something that I normally do. And I read that the Sharks dumped Niemi by trading him to the Wild. They felt that he was lonely after two of his teammates were sent there earlier, so the trade was simply to “reunite them with the hopes of Niemi winning another Stanley Cup.” Weird. No word yet from Mr. Niemi on how he feels about this blockbuster trade.
Piece #3: Jay Cutler. I have no idea why I was dreaming about Jay Cutler. I find him annoying, he looks like a turkey and he sounds like a pompous ass when he talks. But here he was. As I mentioned in the Carcillo section, he also was at my work. He showed up, asked to see my boss, and one of his teammates (I don’t even think this was a real player, just a big dude who was supposed to represent a teammate that was recognized by every other person in my office) sat in my other boss’s office while Jay and Carbomb met with the dorky one. After all of the nonsense with coworkers asking this other mystery teammate for autographs, Cutler left my office and looked mad. I didn’t know why, but I didn’t care. I continued my work day, I assume, and when it was time to go home, I was walking to my car, and from behind a tree (a thin, willowy tree….) Cutler pops out of the darkness, yells “he wasn’t supposed to sign autographs! I was!” And he punched me in the mouth. He ran away, but I caught him, and I punched him back. In the nuts. Twice. He cried, and then I drove away, bleeding from the mouth.
Piece #4: Driving after getting punched: After I got punched in the mouth by Jay Cutler, I was driving home. Somehow, it “magically sealed” by itself, and it was just swollen. But I looked in the mirror, and I saw what looked like a piece of plastic stuck to my lip. I pulled at it, thinking it was just a flake of nothing, and when I pulled it, a thread came out, and my lip busted open again. Like, split down the middle. It was really weird. So I pulled into a parking lot, blew past the “Do Not Enter” sign, parked, scared a guy with my headlights, had a mini freak out, put an orange bandaid on my lip (the orange comes into play later) and I turned around, and drove. I’m not sure why I didn’t just continue driving and get home, or why I didn’t drive to the ER, but it was a dream. Things aren’t supposed to make sense. As I was driving, someone called my phone and left me a message that simply said “YOU’RE LATE FOR YOUR OWN WEDDING! WHERE ARE YOU!” I didn’t know what was going on, and I slammed on the brakes, closed my eyes, and ended up in segment #5.
Piece #5: Philadelphia Flyers locker room. I think this part of the dream was due to Carcillo signing my Flyers jersey yesterday. That’s probably how he ended up in this whole thing, actually, but whatever. So I “come to” and I’m surrounded by a training staff in a locker room. They’re all looking at me like I’m some sort of alien. I sit up, and I realize that I am surrounded by orange…orange, black and white. After a moment, I realize I’m in the Flyers locker room…but my own little “dream world version” of the locker room. They said they found me on the side of the road, and they thought I was one of their own because of my orange bandaid. You know, the one that I put on because I ripped open the Jay Cutler sucker punch? These trainer people said that my top lip had busted open as well, and they went ahead and fixed it up with more orange bandaids. Except, they were the “official” ones, so they were orange, black and white. I looked like a clownfish had been taped to my face in place of my mouth. And they were stiff…like a cast. I cried. Then they told me that Carcillo had called and asked if they had seen me because I was late for “the event.” I didn’t quite understand what all of this talk about events and me being late had to do with anything, and then I blacked out again. (Which in dream world is code for “we’re switching story lines without warning”)
Piece #6: Troy Brouwer blog. Much like the Niemi trade part of my dream, I really don’t think this one fits in with anything else in the adventures of Jay Cutler punches. All I know (and for all I know, this could have been a completely different dream…like maybe I woke up in the middle of the night or something) is that the “Hockey Players as Kids” blog (which, by the way, I suggest you look at if you want a cuteness and/or hilarious overload…) was somehow creating an ENTIRE feature dedicated to Troy Brouwer. And for some reason, people were turning to me as the “expert.” I blame this on Troy’s Gordie Howe Hat Trick last night. He lodged himself into my subconscious brain, I suppose. But anyway, there were all these baby pictures, and they were like…black and white, old, hilarious pictures. And “the powers that be” that run this blog, were running each one by me, individually, and asking “Is this him? How about this one? And this one? This CAN’T be him, can it?” I’m not sure how I ended up as the “Brouwer baby expert” but I was. And I helped create a pretty hilariously epic little blog for this thing. I don’t know, it was amusing to me.
So basically from this dream, I got punched in the face, punched Jay Cutler in the balls and made him cry, didn’t realize that I was apparently marrying Carcillo on that day I got punched, passed out in the Flyers locker room after they bandaged my face in black, orange and white, assisted in blogging about Troy Brouwer, and reacted to a Niemi trade. Seriously, no more tacos for me for a while. That was too weird!